How a Confidential Sounding Board Improves Decision Quality

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A bat flies in total darkness without hitting anything. It sends out a call and listens to the echo. The echo tells it where the walls are, where the insects fly, where the opening is. The bat already knows how to fly. It just needs the echo to know where it is. A good sounding board is an echo for your thinking.

What a sounding board does

A sounding board is a person you talk to about important decisions and ideas, who listens carefully, reflects back what they hear and asks questions. They don’t take over. They help you hear your own thinking more clearly.

When you explain a problem out loud to someone who is really paying attention, something happens: gaps in the logic become obvious, assumptions become visible, and the real question often turns out to be a different one.

Why confidentiality is essential

For a sounding board to work, you need to be able to say things you could not say anywhere else. “I’m not sure my co-founder is the right person anymore.” “I’m thinking about selling.” “I’m afraid this whole strategy is wrong.”

Leaders rarely say these things to their team, their board or even their family. Vistage, the CEO peer network, describes how hierarchy and the pressure to always look confident make it hard for leaders to share doubts with the people around them.¹ A confidential sounding board is a safe room for those thoughts.

Better process, better decisions

Dan Lovallo and Olivier Sibony studied more than 1,000 business decisions and found that the quality of the decision process mattered about six times more for outcomes than the quality of the analysis. Good process included openly discussing uncertainties and hearing dissenting views.²

A sounding board brings exactly these elements into decisions that would otherwise be made alone: someone to raise the uncertainty, someone to voice the other view.

Nancy Kline built a whole method on the observation that people think better when they receive real, uninterrupted attention.³

What makes a good sounding board

• Independent: no stake in which option you choose.
• Discreet: what is said stays in the room.
• Curious: asks more than tells.
• Honest: willing to say “that doesn’t add up”.
• Experienced enough to understand the kind of decisions you face.

How to use one well

Bring a real question, not just an update. Say what you are leaning towards and why. Ask what they hear. And let the conversation change your mind sometimes; otherwise it is only a performance.

What this means for you this week

• Write down one thought about your business you have never said out loud.
• Consider who could be a confidential sounding board for you.
• Prepare one real question for your next conversation with them.
• Afterwards, note what became clearer.

You already know how to fly. A good echo shows you where the walls are.

Sources

1. Vistage Research Center (2021). Why Many Leaders Feel Lonely at the Top. vistage.comHierarchy, the pressure to look confident and the weight of decisions make leadership lonely; peer groups and outside relationships help.
2. Lovallo, D. & Sibony, O. (2010). The case for behavioral strategy. McKinsey Quarterly. mckinsey.comStudy of more than 1,000 major business decisions: the quality of the decision process mattered about six times more than the quality of the analysis.
3. Kline, N. Time to Think and the Thinking Environment. timetothink.comA method built on the observation that the quality of attention we receive shapes the quality of our thinking.